Hello monday...

Happy monday everybody....'gak berasa yah it's monday again...time to gear up for the whole week. Eniwei, nagapain aja nih wiken? For some reason tumben amat suami gue mau di ajak ke mall. Jadi kebetulan ada mall yang baru buka di sekitar kelapa gading, namanya mall artha gading..supposedly become the biggest mall in Jakarta. Yah mumpung dia mo diajak ke mall meluncurlah kita ke sana soale my hubby paling males kalo disuruh ke mall during weekend selain paling anti macet (eh ini jakarta bang..bisa ketemu 'gak macet mah miracle oy..) and paling anti nyari parkir (makanya plat mobil enake ganti CD aja biar disangka mobil kedutaan). Ternyata emang besar yah...paling enggak kaki capek juga muter 2x, tapi benernya sih bukan gede banget kayak gimana, cuman dia bagi mall itu jadi beberapa theme, such as India, China, Italy jadi 'gak bosen liatnya.

Sampe sana pas lagi maen 2x lalu nyusul lah nyokap gue diikuti my cousin, oma gue and terakhir oom gue juga, after lunch si Kayla dapet big surprise..dia dapet mobil 2x an dari oom gue udah deh...seharian itu dia hepi bener naek tuh mobil...Lumayan deh penghematan kantong emak-bapaknya....cihuy!!!

Kayla n her new ride

Minggu malem kita ke wedding party-nya colleague suami gue, yah namanya pesta di Indo yah otomatis undangan seabrek abrek lah...pas makan juga extremely ngantri..malahan kemarin pas groom-nya masih ngasih speech udah ada yang mulai ngambil makan (laper nih yee...). Pas udah mulai acara makan benerannya, gue ngantrilah buat ngambilin kayla..karena ngantri-nya lama so pasti gue sambil nengok 2x kebelakang nah pas nengok itu gue sempet kaget soale belakang gue bapak 2x lagi picking his nose (ikannya dapet pak???) udah gue liatin masih aja asyik aja dia (lagi nanggung sih). Beberapa menit kemudian gue nengok lagi nyari suami gue, eh si bapak sekarang pindah lobang hidung mana hot bener kayak ngulek rujak (mau saya pinjemin ulekan sekalian pak?)...ampun 'mak..dosa apa yah gue ampe mustin ngeliat gitu....gatel sih gatel pak..cuman masak iya yah ampe 'gak bisa nahan...langsung deh drop nafsu makan gue....

I Love...

• American Idol: There’s Simon!!!!Though he sometimes gives nasty comments at least he’s honest and won’t settle for anything less. And also, there’s always some jerk who doesn’t take no for an answer (come on man..be real…even the fat lady sings better)
• Bridget Jones: Somewhere..sometime under the blue moon it reminds me of myself!!!
• Sex and the City: Girl rules the world!!! Although the sex part is a bit overexposed but at least someone has the guts to write something original like this. No to mention the ladies have great clothes and shoes.. of course.
• Starbuck: Ouch…imagine yourself sitting in a café with a glass of frappe and a good book on your hand..having a quiet moment for yourself …..Starbuck would be the one (but definitely not the one at the mall). Love the Mocha Frappe there.
• Bookstore’s corner: The one place where you can read and having a wild imagination about it(hey…I know what you’re thinking…oh please, I always take cookbook).
• Keanu Reeves: He’s so cool!!!I think he doesn’t aging like other actor and have you seen him lately in “Constantine”..OMG, he’s so gorgeous (I always have a crush on him since teenager).
• Jazz Music: The one cure for my roller coaster mood. Jazz also the one that makes me and my hubby attract to each other.
• Egg: Aside from having 'egg' that ovulates each month, I'm such an egg-kinda-gal. Just serve me any kind of egg: scrambled, boiled, omelette, sunny side up..it'll be gone in a matter of seconds.
  

Are we raising a monster?

Why 2-year-olds throw tantrums?

A temper tantrum is the emotional equivalent of a summer storm — sudden and sometimes fierce, but often over as quickly as it starts. One minute you and your child are enjoying your dinner in a restaurant, the next she's whimpering, whining, and then screaming to go home. Two-year-olds are especially prone to such episodes.
Though you may worry that you're raising a tyrant, take heart — at this age, it's unlikely that your child is throwing a fit to be manipulative. More likely, she's having a meltdown in response to frustration. Often, your 2-year-old's language skills — or lack thereof — are to blame. "Two-year-olds are beginning to understand more and more of the words they hear, yet their ability to articulate their feelings and needs is limited," says Claire B. Kopp, professor of applied developmental psychology at California's Claremont Graduate University. As a result, frustration builds when your child can't express how she feels(cited from parentcenter.com).

Raising a 2-years-old bener 2x a real challege, not just physically but mentally too...gue sih masih bisa tahan for the physical part but mentally it takes whatever you got inside you...happiness, sadness, craziness..well you just name it. Dulu pas beberapa orang bilang "You just have to wait till they're 2 years old..." gue pasti mikir so what's with a 2-years-old? Ternyata betul bow...sekarang gue udah mulai ngerasain the real meaning of full temper tantrum.

Tadi malem pas gue pulang kerja, Kayla masih ceria banget..kita makan sama 2x and she looks so happy. Afterwards kita maen in our room, dia yang lead us whatever she wants to do..mulai dari main beneran sampe main yang ngaco 2x..malah we watched american idol together sambil dia niruin mereka singing and dancing. Trus kita pasangin movie for her, halfway dia mulai ngantuk and minta susu. Pas selesai minum susu dia udah mulai rewel minta turun maen sama pembantu 2x...karena udah malem dan mereka udah tidur yah otomatis 'gak kita kasih lah...nah tiba 2x dia bisa nangis sambil teriak 2x..we never saw her like that, sampe nangis-nya loncat 2x trus teriak sampe suara serak..lari kiri-kanan kayak semua mau di tabrak. Suami gue liat gitu langsung naik darah ...bener 2x Kayla 'gak bisa disuruh diem sama sekali... I even took her downstairs to show her that they're sleeping masih aja dia maksa mau buka kamar mereka 'n go inside. Gue bawa lagi keatas 'n on the way up masih teriak 2x sambil badannya goyang 2x..mana gue takut juga pas gue gendong terus jadi jatuh....teriakannya itu lho..as if we're in the slaughterhouse...

Akhirnya masuk kamar lagi dan semua pintu di kunci sama bapaknya....wuih..Kayla tambah ngamuk sampe suaranya serak, bener 2x we tried our best to calm her tapi 'gak mau juga. Trus sangking terlalu hot nangis sampe muntah sendiri trus masih nangis 2x and sekarang minta pergi naik mobil (maunya apa coba). Last effort, we just changed her clothes, took her inside the car and drove around the block. After 5 - 10 minutes she fell asleep...maybe she's already too tired. For us, it was one hellish experience..moga 2x 'gak sering kayak gini. Bener deh gue tuh semalem sampe stress rasanya..dari dibilangin, diomelin, dikasih ngerti baik 2x, di sayang 2x sampe di cuekin udah gue lakuin. If you asked me how I felt yesterday..all I can answer is " Like being hit by a thunderstorm"

Gue sempet mikir beberapa hal dan yang pertama, apakah decision kita untuk enroll her in preschool itu too soon? It can add stress to her life juga although school is only Mon-Wed-Fri from 08.00 AM-10.30 AM soale this past two days dia agak bad mood pas paginya dan sampe sekolah suka cranky. Before it was OK malah all the teachers a bit surprised kok dia sama sekali 'gak rewel considering dia sama sekali 'gak nyariin kita and so happy in school. Kedua, apakah dia too attach to the maid now? Soale biasanya 'gak begitu..baru this past week aja dia kayak kena separation anxiety or just coincidence aja?

So many questions and probabilities yet one question keeps haunting me "Are we raising a monster?"

I broke my vow...

Hua.......today I broke my vow by becoming friendster's member.....ha..ha..ha...dulu gue udah janji 'gak bakalan ikutan friendster soale gue males kalo disuruh update and invite kiri kanan. Tapi today a friend of mine minta to check out her profile and buat buka musti daftar dulu...akhirnya I become an official member of friendster.

Suami gue yang masih belum tergerak buat join friendster soale dia paling males suruh nulis atau baca yang 'gak related with sport, news and computer. Eniwei, karena udah member (sombong bener yah..padahal profile gue juga masih kosong) so gue looking forward to rekindle with old friends and of course no to forget: adding new friends as my next step.....(asal jangan cari selingkuhan...tapi kalo gue yang diajak jangan salahkan daku yah....he..he...he...'gak ding.... ntar gue 'gak dikasih duit jajan lagi ama my hubby)

Rambut & Alis

Waks...tadi pagi pas bangun tidur mendapat kejutan hebat.....sampe jantung gue mo copot rasanya!!! Jadi ceritanya gini neh..gue kemarin siang pas lunch memutuskan untuk ke salon 'ma temen gue..soale friday khan lunch hour-nya lebih panjang jadi keburu lah kalo cuman potong aja. Lagian kudu disempetin gara gara rambut udah awut-awutan kayak film Megaloman jaman dulu. Pas setelah potong, gue mo iseng ngerapiin alis sekalian soale bentuknya udah 'gak keruan pula...he..he..he...lumayan lho abis potong rambut rasanya kepala lebih enteng.

Nah paginya pas gue bangun gue iseng ngaca dong..namanya juga cewe, apalagi kalo 'gak hobby ngaca. Ternyata sodara-sodara, the surprise is : Alis kiri gue ternyata ilang separo....ihik..ihik...gue baru nyadar kalo kemaren pas dicukur, dia 'gak bersihin alis gue (udah ada pensil alis-nya khan). Pas malem cuci muka gue juga 'gak ngeh pula...ampun dah!!! Pas suami gue kasih liat, kayaknya mulutnya dia udah gatel mo comment cuman liat gue manyun jadi 'gak jadi hmm..kalo dia ampe comment sih udah gue tendang mental ke pohon jeruk depan rumah gue.

Wah niat mo keren gue kayanya 'gak diberi restu oleh yang diatas deh. Yah nasib..ya nasib...untunglah masih ada pensil alis andalan... paling enggak gue bersyukur 'gak di babat alis tuh alis gue, coba kalo alis gue ampe botak khan jangan jangan gue bisa liat tuyul lagi (baca: sambil berasa denger music twilight zone).

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

Pernah kepikir 'gak kapan kita pertama kali melakukan sesuatu untuk pertama kalinya? Kebetulan hari ini gue melakukan beberapa hal yang belon pernah gue lakukan sebelumnya....benernya sih malu buat crita soale for certain people this isn't something special but anyway.....

Hari ini kebetulan gue ngalamin hal yang lumayan aneh 2x dari sore ampe malem. Mulanya dari pagi tiba 2x nyokap gue dengan inisiatif tingkat tinggi masukkin mobil gue ke bengkel dan pas gue tanya bisa kelar jam berapa di jawab ma nyokap dia 'gak tau. OK lah..palingan gue pikir sore juga dah klar..eh ternyata wrong guess!!! Jam 4-an kita dikasih tau kalo 'gakmungkin kelar ampe besok sore ...GRRRR!!!! Udah deh mulai bete soale udah sore mo minta di jemput pake mobil laen juga musti nunggu lama padahal jam 5.30 gue udah kudu nyampe kantor suami gue, gara gara dia musti nuker barang di mall and he insists buat do it today.

Eniwei akhirnya gue dapet tebengan taxi dari temen gue (lumayan...) padahal tadinya gue udah mo sok sok-an naek busway. Jam 5.30 sharp gue nyampe lah di tempat dia dan rencananya mo ke mall plaza semanggi dengan free shuttle bus-nya p semanggi (mereka muter 2x daerah SCBD dan GKBI). Jam 6 kurang, gue, suami gue dan temen kantor suami gue dengan semangat 45 mulai turunlah ke bawah dan ternyata hujan deras di tambah angin beliung....wah gimana nih mo ke tempat shuttle-nya? Eh ada ojek payung, lumayan deh kita panggil dan dasar lagi sok imut entah kenapa gue ama temen kita itu share satu payung berdua padahal kalo pas lagi dipikir normal jelas 2x gue aja udah makan space satu payung sendiri. BTW, ada untungnya lho berbadan seperti gue, kalo pas jalan hujan angin begini orang laen dah pontang panting kebawa angin, gue sih masih manteb aja tuh menginjak bumi. Nyampe di tempat shuttle 'gak taunya bus-nya udah lewat..padahal menurut schedule harusnya belon....ampun deh...akhirnya bertigaan hujan 2x nunggu taxi di tengah jalan.....Phew.....

Setelah a few minutes, dapet lah taxi (padahal deket banget dari GKBI ke P semanggi) dan kebetulan dia mau angkut kita ke p semanggi. Sialnya, pas mo masuk p semanggi jalanannya ditutup soale macet, jadilah kita muter 2x cari jalan belakang sementara sepatu gue udah basah gara 2x kerendem air, gue punya pants juga basah oy....after another 20 minutes barulah kita nyampe di mall. Pas di taxi gue udah bercita cit amo beli sepatu ama baju ganti..eh ternyata sampe sana kudu nemenin suami gue dulu balikkin barang gara gara dia takut toko-nya tutup.

Afterwards, kita ke supermarket and beli sandal jepit..and the funniest thing adalah liat suami gue pake sendal jepit merah menyala kayak obat merah. Seumur umur gue 'gak pernah liat he has something to do with the color red, not even dia punya pencil or anything...He's a blue-type-of-man. Ya udah deh kita dengan pe-de-nya pake sendal jepit keliling mall...kebayang 'gak kalo pas ketemu client? Mana baju masih basah kuyup pula..bagus 'ga diusir satpam.

Abis dinner and so on kita putuskan pulang soale takut susah nyari taxi, dan betul aja tuh...ternyata antrian taxi-nya kayak ular pdhl hujan juga udah berhenti. Eh tiba 2x kita ge-er liat shuttle bus-nya ada dan we think it'll be easier buat balik ke kantor suami dan dari sana baru pesen cab. Langsung kita lari 2x dan.....wohoho..ternyata bus wisata yang isinya turis...kecele nih yee....Akhirnya udah deh kita jalan kaki ke depan univ atma and decided to hail the taxi from there. Fortunately it was a clear night and cari taxi ternyata not to bad dari sana.

So today, what I did for the first time:

• Hujan 2x-an sambil ber ojek payung ria di seputar Gatot Subroto - Semanggi
• Jalan jalan pake baju kantor yang basah kuyup sambil ber sendal jepit ria
• Nunggu taxi di tengah jalan bareng suami

Looking at the bright side, it was quite a romantic night for me and my hubby...strolling Sudirman Street on a night like this... even the moon was smiling at us...I wish this would last forever (eh ralat deh..kalo besok 2x gue pake musti hujan 2x-an dulu sih 'gak janji deh...kecuali setting-nya di Central Park..that would be different)

How do I feel today

Grammy??? Not!!!!

Grr....sebel berat..mustinya tadi gue lagi enak 2x nonton grammy, pas udah ampe tengah 2x tiba 2x suami gue ganti channel buat nge-check what's on ESPN. Guess what???? Lagi ada NFL's Pro Bowl...jadilah gagal acara nonton grammy gara gara di sabotase dia....Sebal!!!!

My funny valentine

This song really stuck in my head because of several reasons, dan yang paling utama adalah ever since gue pacaran ampe kawin ama suami gue ini, bisa dihitung pake jari kanan gue (itu juga masih lebih)kapan kita pernah ngerayanin valentine together dengan dia. Accordingto him, valentine is way overrated banget..he..he..he..for me, well..kalo diajak nge-date yah syukur..enggak ya udah...nrimo aja lah. Back to the funny valentine song itu, ada 2 pengalaman valentine gue bareng suami yang cukup "memorable".

Pertama, tahun 1995 pas kita masih sama sama sekolah dan kebetulan gue dan dia ada di kota yang beda banget. Satu di central dan satu di east coast, so pasti 'gak mungkin bisa ketemuan...pas valentine yah palingan cuman nelpon aja (walaupun dalam hati sebel juga 'gak dapet bunga). Eh tiba tiba besoknya ada kiriman bunga segede ampun ampun dan ada kartu yang tulisannya " I think the flowers say it all" Wow...ternyata hunny mengirimkan bunga, feel guilty kali yah...he..he..he..padahal suer lho gue 'gak minta sama sekali. Tapi gue curiga sih soale dia bukan tipe romantis dan kayaknya 'gak mungkin kalo dia yang nulis all those words (if you know my husband then you must know what I'm talking about). Since gue gak mau spoil the moment so gue call dia to say thank you and say thousands of I Love You...tapi karena masih penasaran a few days later, gue tanya dong " Ok...Siapa tuh yang nulis kartu-nya, soale bahasanya bukan eloe banget" dan emang terbukti dia ngaku kalo dia diomelin ama temen 2x-nya gara gara 'gak ngirim bunga ke gue dan trus karena udah valentine so bunga baru bisa dikirim one day after dan kartunya juga dikarangin ama temennya pula....aduh deh...

Kedua, pas tahun 1996 kebetulan gue lagi ketempat dia dan sempet stay ampe valentine..I thought learning from past experiences dia bakalan ajak gue nge-date kemana gitu. Ternyata enggak lho....baru jam 5 atau jam 6 sore dia heboh mo bikin reservation...yah mana mungkinlah dapet. Udah gitu pas hari itu gue sakit pula, badan rasanya meriang..tambah bad mood deh..yang ada makan di deket apt aja. Again, baru besoknya kita pergi nge-date..itu juga gue 'gak mo rugi walaupun badan masih meriang gue pesen aja makan yang banyak....he..he..he...

Sejak itu for me Valentine is always on the 15 of Feb..he..he..he...anyway, for you all the lovebirds..Happy Valentine's Day!!!!

Yogya's trip

Halo..halo...Fiuh..capek banget neh...soale baru balik kmarin dari jogja..buat yang pengen tau critanya, ini lho kegiatan kita selama disana

Day 1: Berangkat Rabu tgl 8 'n kita kesana bertigaan plus 5 orang temen kita. Berangkat jam 09.55 pagi so jam 11.00 udah ngerasain panasnya udara jogja. Nyampe langsung cari makan siang, kebetulan salah satu temen kita itu emang wong jogja, jadi kita 'gak pusing musti nyari makan dimana. Siang itu kita makan di tempat namanya Boyong Kalegan, asyik lho..kita lesehan sambil makan ikan bakar dll. Trus karena udah siang langsung deh check-in ke hotel..guess what!!! There's a surprise waiting for me at the hotel..ternyata mertua cowo 'n ipar gue nyusul ke yogya, and they're not even telling me!!! Lumayan deh ada yang bantu gue 'n suami buat jaga Kayla, kalo cuman kita berdua bisa pingsan deh..Cuman mertua 'gak lama, alias besok malem dah mo balik cuman untung ipar gue 'gak. Lumayan banget...Hari ini sih kita 'ga terlalu kmana mana just ke supermarket bentar 'n then dinner di tempat namanya Gajah Wong, keren banget tempatnya..dan sesuai dengan namanya emang banyak patung gajahnya. Gue ampe capek banget pas malem itu abis tempatnya khan banyak tangga 'n bale 2x so pasti Kayla kayak cacing kepanasan 'n jadi 'gak mo makan. Mana dia nge-fans banget sama gajah..ya udah deh heboh ndiri jadinya. Malem itu badan gue kek mo rontok.

Day 2: after bfast kita berenang ria di hotel (walaupun gue 'gak pede banget pake baju renang) 'n nyobain semua kolam yang ada disana, termasuk all the perosotan. BTW, kita nginep di Hyatt Regency, kebetulan they have nice swimming pools. After that we went to Omah Dhuwur (Rumah Tinggi), ini resto yang tempatnya emang tinggi..bisa santai sambil liat pemandangan . Oh iya, pas berenang ria sih suami gue 'gak ikut soale dia ama mertua 'n temen gue pada golf so kita baru ketemuan pas lunch. Disana Kayla juga masih heboh 'gak mo makan soale liat tangga n below ada rumah 2x-an tempat dining area juga, jadi dia pengennya maen ke sana mulu

Afterwards kita jalan ke tempat tas, batik dll..berhubung bawa anak yah so pasti lah gue 'gak bisa shopping..duh sedihnya, mana dia lagi 'gak mo makan so pasti jadi makin cranky beratz...maunya nempel mulu kayak perangko. Dari sana kita ke Malioboro..dan ternyata hujan deras bow, jadi 'gak bisa liat apa apa deh..cuman sempet naik becak dari tempat kita stop sampe ke mobil dari sana pergi makan gudeg (yang ini 'gak boleh dilewatin banget) trus pulang ke hotel disambung dengan..zzzz...zzzzz

Day 3: Pagi dah jalan ke sendang sono , disana kita tried to contemplate what we've done in the past and ask for forgiveness (cie..gaya banget deh...), tapi bener lho di tempat kayak gini, somehow hati rasanya tenang dan panas diluar 'gak gitu berasa..kesannya damai banget..jadi terharu rasanya. Nah dari sini kita lanjut ke Losari Coffee Plantation, wuih..suasana disana serasa jaman kolonial banget, pas sampe kita langsung pada berdecak kagum liat the view there.

bener khan keren...he..he..he..kita disana lunch sambil ngopi2x, soale jelas 2x ke plantation tapi masak 'gak nyobain kopi khan rugi toh...'n emang coffee was extremely good..we even bought beans buat dibawa pulang. Selepas nyantai kita putuskan jalan ke Amanjiwo Resort. Kalo kita tadi udah berasa di Losari keren banget..ternyata di Amanjiwo KEREN ABIS!!!! Gile bow, bagus banget...banget..banget...kita sih disana ber-high-tea ria critanya.

dari sana karena dah sore kita putuskan balik ke yogya aja deh buat dinner, sampe sana udah jam 7-an n kita nyoba makan steak kampung (eh emang namanya gini lho..) gile murah bener yah...hari gini masih ada steak kumplit yang harganya Rp 6000,-..wah kalo di jakarta ada yang kayak gini bisa cepet kaya deh..he..he..he...hari ini berasa banget deh capek-nya soale selain dari pagi dah cabutz juga perginya keluar kota semua. Mana musti ngepak buat besok pula..yang ada yang laen dah tidur, masih aja gue musti ngepak..aduh sedihnya dah gitu sempet sebel berat soale celana renang gue yang gue pake di ambil orang pas gue jemur di balkon kamar. Kayaknya kalo jatuh 'gak mungkin banget soale gue taruh di bagian dalem dan kalo jatuh juga pasti ke taman coz kamar kita kalo di buka langsung taman...ihik..ihik..ya udah amal deh..kali aja ada yang ngincer celana gue, abis khan jarang ada ukuran segede gitu hi..hi..hi....

Day 4: hari terakhir kita pake buat jalan seputar yogya, beli oleh-oleh makanan khas sini dan dilanjutkan ke taman sari, ini tempat pas jaman dulu kala buat tempat mandi para selir sultan (suit..suit), disana para selir mandi dengan kemben ria dan katanya kudu pake nomor supaya sultan bisa manggil dengan gampang..maklum jaman dulu khan selirnya banyak toh yah....khan susah kalo kudu ngapalin nama...

Dari sana kita jalan ke reruntuhan dimana dulu sultan pake buat ngeliat datangnya musuh. BTW, jaman dulu di sekeliling taman sari itu air semua, jadi sampan bisa berlabuh disana. Dari sana kita ke masjid bawah tanah dan disana ternyata banyak underground passage-nya. Hebat banget deh jaman dulu bisa bangun tempat kayak gini, dan emang keren sih.. Cuman sayangnya disini, historical place kayak gini belum di preserve dengan baik dan 'gak bisa bersih. Kenapa ya? Trus disambung buat ngeliat Kraton Yogya..tapi bener kali yah, suasana-nya emang agak mistis soale Kayla suka bilang "ih serem" pas ngelewatin beberapa tempat, such as pohon beringin, patung 2x dll...tapi yah as long kita 'gak aneh 2x gue rasa kita juga 'gak bakalan diganggu. Selesai liat kraton kita lunch then ke airport. Pas sampe airport mulai hujan, tambah lama tambah deres..gue udah bilang ma suami gue, jangan sampe take off pas hujan. Eh ternyata pas take off masih aja hujan dan lebih hebatnya lagi kita kudu jalan dari airport ke pesawat sambil dipinjemin payung ama mereka trus tuh payung dibalikkin lagi sama crew mereka yang nunggu dibawah tangga...well, buat yang tinggal di luar u'll never experience things like this yah..lucu juga sih. Sebelum take off gue udah doa biar selamat sampe tempat tujuan, mengingat bad weather gini. Dan betul sekali sodara sodara, pas di perjalanan 2 kali kita encounter turbulance...aduh yang kedua parah banget sampe orang 2x pada teriak...seperti kata Kayla "Ih serem!!!" Yah tapi gue rasa kita masih dilindungi, buktinya kita sampai di Jakarta dalam keadaan sehat segar selamat...Thank You Lord!!! Sampe rumah langsung deh kita mandi..makan..dan TIDUR!!!!!

Guys 'n Sports

Hm..ever wonder what's up with guys 'n sport? Like most guys, suami gue termasuk sportsnews-junkie(tapi kalo disuruh olah raga seribu satu alesannya), every major league pasti dia nonton apalagi jaman masih kuliah dulu, tiap malem pasti udah nongkrong dengan manis di depan TV buat nonton ESPN Sportscenter dan dimana kebiasaan itu masih berlanjut sampai sekarang. Belum lagi kalo weekend or pas ada playoff, wah jangan harap deh bisa ngajak pergi..wong ngajak ngomong aja bisa disetut kaya cewe lagi PMS . Dan herannya, kok gak bosen yah liat pertandingan yang sama berulang-ulang, contoh kemarin kebetulan ada playoff NFL dan team favorit-nya dia New England Patriots pas maen, di bela-belain dah bangun pagi 'n berangkat telatan ke kantor buat liat first half-nya. Pas sampe di kantor terus dia kudu meeting 'n masih juga disempetin call gue buat ngecek siapa yang menang..hah????? Malem-nya kebetulan ada siaran tunda..wah udah deh nonton lagi dan 'gak boleh diganti padahal pembagian trophy-nya jug adah lewat...apa coba???

Tapi kayaknya apa yang gue alamin pastinya common problem, most couples juga suka ngalamin hal yang sama. There's something mysterious about guys 'n sports. Liat aja deh jaman kita sekolah dulu, kalo ada cowo yang jago basket pasti deh jadi idola se-sekolah (hayo ngaku....), kesannya macho banget khan. Trus pas jaman kita mulai 'mengenal make-up', cowo mulai berlomba-lomba buat bisa jadi bintang lapangan (dan mostly jaman gue SMP / SMA, yah basket lah)...even pulang sekolah juga masih nongkrong buat maen basket.

Pas jaman kuliah juga masih didominasi dengan maen basket..basket dan basket, cuman karena kebetulan suami gue dari SMA dah di luar jadi dia mulai deh ikut dengan segala macam olah raga mulai dari basket, tae kwon do, panjat tebing sampai ski (yang ini bikin dia tergila gila). Semua acara sports juga ditonton ampe mata melotot berair air juga tetep aja di depan TV (duh cinta-nya ama TV). Ketemu temen 2x yang dibahas juga kalo 'gak basket, football yah baseball..dan sangking parahnya beberapa waktu terakhir ini dia juga mantengin TV buat belajar rule-nya cricket (gue rasa kalo bisa lomba karapan sapi juga di belajarin rules-nya 'ma dia).

Fenomena olah raga juga gue rasakan di seputar kantor, most cowo 2x di kantor juga addicted to soccer (untung laki gue 'gak terlalu..amin..amin). Tiap hari pasti deh lagi ngomongin Juventus, AC Milan dll apalagi kalo musim kompetisi bisa pada lembur cuman buat ngobrolin bola 'n ngatur strategi buat non-bar alias nonton bareng. Malah 'gak jarang jadi bokek abis gara gara kalah taruhan (kalo gini bandar demen banget deh).

Jadi inget pas jaman kecil, alm bokap dulu paling 'gak bisa ketinggalan kalo ada pertandingan bola ' n bulu tangkis...pasti hebon tenan. Bokap gue bisa jingkrak-jingkrak sendiri sambil teriak-teriak belain Icuk lah, ntar belain Haryanto Arbi dll ..pokoke heboh sampe kalo ada yang lewat rumah pasti disangkain kita lagi ngejer maling kali. Belon kalo pas bola yang disiarin malem atau subuh, pasti deh dia nonton juga dan untungnya 'gak pake ngajak 2x kita (karena anaknya cewe semua dan pastinya males pula), palingan nyokap aja yang jadi korban dengan disuruh nemenin dia...coba sekarang suami gue bangunin gue jam 2 pagi cuman buat nemenin nonton bola bisa gue keluarin ilmu 'mike-tyson' gue dah.

Eniwei, apakah emang every guy is addicted to sport? Dan apakah olah raga merupakan suatu wadah untuk menunjukkan ke-macho-an diri? Hm...I guess the only one who could answer is the man himself. So..will the real gentleman...please stand up..please stand up (Baca: gue lagi bergaya-gaya kayak eminem)

Sweet Word

Went to a wedding on saturday night, pas di tengah-tengah bestman kasih speech for the bride 'n groom. I've been to lots of weddings tapi jarang ada speech yang 'touchy'. Bestman dan groom kenalan waktu di New York dan kebetulan both are runners jadi mereka ikut New York Marathon ect. What he said was, "He used to be my running partner in marathon but now he's her running partner in the Marathon of Love". Maybe for certain people it sounds cheesy but somehow, been said at the right time 'n place...it's so sweet. Such a short sentence but has a deep meaning. As far as I know, when guys bonded... it lasts forever. Lihat aja deh, cowo kalo udah janji ama temen pasti deh apa juga dibelain-belain..pacar aja kalah. So, seeing a friend saying things like that kesannya jadi gemana gitu....apa maybe gue yang terlalu melankolis? Maybe yes..maybe not...maybe....

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (Are they??)

Years ago when I first read the book, I was quite surprised. The first thing that came to my mind was, " Whoa..he makes money just by laying out the difference between men and women???" Then, I found myself laughing to tears 'coz I think that the Martian is simply like my husband and the Venusian is me!!! Yeah..now I understand why John Gray's book was a bestseller..doesn't mean I like the book though just think he's good in term of knowing what actually people want to read (that what we call a very lucky guy). Somehow the audience can relate to the book, they feel like it represents them in words.

As what have been written by John Gray "Men are more likely to use language to accomplish the job at hand than to nourish relationships... traditionally, female speech often contains statements of sympathy and empathy. Men as individuals who give importance to power, competency, efficiency and achievement; while women are often regarded as more focused on issues of love, communication, beauty and relationships."

When this book was first published, many people reacted differently..some said "Yeah..yeah now I know why my husband or boyfriend is so different, no wonder he's acting that way", while others said" That's not completely true, women are not so much different from men." For me, so what if I'm different from my husband..I love being able to spend hours and hours on the phone... I love being able to cry over an argument...I love being able to carry a child...in a blunt way, I love myself being a woman. With all the differences that we have it makes life more colorful. Can you imagine if you and your partner are truly the same? Don't you think it's kinda weird if you can read each other mind and react the same way to every aspect of life?

As well as I love being a woman, I love my husband being the man in the relationship. Although sometimes we argue over things..I think he's too ignorant and he thinks I'm overreacting but hey...that's the beauty of life.....none can say being a man is better than a woman (except my husband since he's such a sexist) or the other way around. But above all I believe in equality, regardless of every sex you are, you should have the same right in term of education, job opportunity, health benefit etc.

And I couldn't agree more than what Kevin B. Burk wrote: "It's true that men tend to be more in touch with the more "masculine" or yang aspects, while women tend to be more in touch with the more "feminine" or yin aspects. But not being aware of or familiar with our complimentary nature doesn't mean that we can't learn about it and express it. This, in fact, is the reason that men and women form relationships with each other. Our partners are our mirrors, and when men and women relate to each other--whether that relationship is sexual or not--what we see reflected is our complimentary nature. We see the parts of ourselves that we haven't integrated or owned yet. And through our relationships with the opposite gender, we learn how to connect with and own these parts of ourselves, and experience true balance. We need to learn to acknowledge, accept and embrace these two complimentary natures. We each have both Mars and Venus within us, and we need to learn how to appreciate and express them both."

Have a nice weekend!!!!!

The Parent's Prayer

Dear God,

Thank you for my little one,

I know we will have lots of fun.

Help me to be firm and wise

and see things through my child's eyes.

Give me courage and patience too

so I'll know the right things to do.

Please show me what I need to know

so I can help my child grow.

Thank you for this life you've shared

trusting me to take great care.

Help me please to always see

the blessing you have given me!

--Christine Michaels--

True meaning of manner

Biasanya during 07.45 A.M - 08.15. A.M adalah peak hour dari lift, karena orang mulai antri untuk naik ke office masing masing. Nah disitu biasanya kita bisa lihat apakah bagaimana sih manner orang itu. Obviously ada yang sabar, ada juga yang 'grusah grusuh' kayak banteng lihat kain merah. Juga masalah umum adalah masih kurang sadarnya arti dari kata MENGANTRI. Kayaknya susah banget deh bikin orang mau ngantri, kila lihat aja contoh paling gampang di taxi stand (udah ada masih aja berusaha nyelak), di WC umum (berdiri langsung di depan pintu 'gak pedulu antrian dimana), di kasir supermarket (suka belaga bodo mo ngambil permen pdhl jelas niatan mo nyerobot).

Kebetulan pagi ini gue mengalami hal yang gue sebutin diatas, cuman kali ini gue ketemu orang yang punya manner. Pas gue lagi nganti lift kebetulan ada beberapa orang yang bersamaan, nah pas lift kebuka mostly pada langsung masuk aja, mo tabrakan juga cuek. Gue sih sabar aja ngantri coz gue pikir ngapain gue ampe musti tabrak 2x-an, pas gue mo masuk ada cowok yang mo masuk juga eh tiba tiba dia pegangin pintu lift-nya dan gue dipersilahkan masuk dulu ama dia. Wah surprise banget deh, hari gini masih ada yang bersikap gentlemen and plus point-nya cowoknya 'seger' pula..cihuy semangat deh kerja gue (honey..if you read this my heart still belongs to you..he..he..he..)

Kebalikan dari cerita diatas kemarin ada temen office gue yang kebetulan karena lagi 'gak dijemput suami-nya so dia musti queing for taxi dan karena lagi gerimis so pasti taxi stand-nya penuh banget. To make things worst, taxi juga 'gak gitu sering lewat jadi pegel 'n kesel lah pastinya. Disebelah temen gue berdiri seorang executive dari negeri matahari terbit, pas ada taxi lewat tiba tiba dia dengan santainya langsung nunduk dan molos ngelawatin taxi stand trus duduk manis di dalam taxi tersebut. Yang ada semua pada bengong dong 'n kali sambil mikir nih orang keturunan ninja kali yee bisa langsung nongol di depan. Nah, pas kebetulan yang harusnya naek adalah ibu ibu 'n langsung disamperinlah si mas 'ninja' trus di bilangin bahwa "it's not his turn" trus dengan santai si mas 'ninja' turun lagi and balik ke antrian semula. Barangkali dia pikir just because he lives here budaya ngantri udah 'gak ada kali yee...Well, you're making a big mistake man!!! Kalo pas gue ngantri 'n di selak gue rasa gue bakal keluarin ilmu 'auman singa' nyokap deh .Oh well, hope this doen't happened to you all....